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COMPETENT COUPLES®
Competent Couples® is offered in two formats. The first format is that of a series of week-end workshops, each of which focuses on a different area of relationship skills:
The second format is that of a five-session weekly course. This contains the same content as that of the Intimacy and Autonomy Week-end Workshop. All programs provide couples with the ability to use skills consciously to build healthy relationships.
In each program, participants will be provided with clear, detailed presentations, demonstrations, and discussions on the key skills necessary for building a loving, effective partnership. Couples learn through lecture, discussion, practice, feedback, re-practice, reflection, and observation. This provides people with immediate and concrete opportunities to integrate the teachings.
Formats of the programs are set up to make the learning environment interesting, fun, profound and challenging, as well as compassionate, safe, and respectful. It is not group therapy. It is an opportunity to learn profound skills. Privacy and boundaries are always respected, so people can choose to share as much or as little as they wish about their particular relationships, and still receive the full benefit of the programs.
Workshop 1- Intimacy and Autonomy- The Foundational WorkshopWorkshop 2- Giving and ReceivingWorkshop 3- Romance and the Physical RelationshipWorkshop 4- The Spiritual Relationship
WEEK-END WORKSHOPS
Week-end programs are designed to provide couples with concentrated learning experiences to develop key skills necessary for developing and maintaining intimate, satisfying, and evolving relationships.
Competent Couples 1- Intimacy and Autonomy
This is the foundational week-end program and is a prerequisite for attending other week-end programs. This week-end has as it's focus the development of skills for creating profound connection while honoring and working through your differences and conflicts in ways that bring healing and deeper trust to the relationship. Here are the competencies you will learn and practice in the Intimacy and Autonomy program:
Building The Ability To Be Present And Intimate With Your Partner:
Learn specific skills for being present and deeply connected to one another in ways that invite openness, trust, support, and growth as individuals and as a couple.
Listening And Staying Centered:
Create a relationship in which both of you are able to actively, compassionately, and effectively listen to one another. Learn to be empathic, and centered when your partner has gentle or strong feelings about an issue.
Working With Personality Differences:
Learn to understand, respect, and work effectively with differences between you and your partner.
Expressing And Resolving Conflicts In Ways That Provide Healing And Growth:
Learn how to express your conflicts and upsets with one another in ways less likely to create or recreate wounding in your partnership and more likely to build intimacy, trust, healing, and empowerment for both of you.
Understanding Your Patterns Of Behavior In Intimate Relationships:
Identify and understand the effects of your childhood on your adult relationship choices and behaviors. Identify the central wounds that play themselves out in most of your conflicts and learn ways of freeing yourself from outmoded strategies.
Collaborative Assertiveness:
Learn to assert what you want, need, or prefer in ways respectful to yourself and to your partner.
Developing A Vision of Partnership:
Build and maintain a partnership of intimacy, trust, collaboration, and growth in your relationship. Ground your vision in agreed upon next steps and goals.
PLEASE NOTE: FEES / LOGISTICAL INFORMATION FOR THE PROGRAMS CAN BE FOUND ON THE "TO RESERVE A SPACE" PAGE.
Competent Couples 2- Giving and Receiving
This week-end has as it's focus the development of skills for creating an intimate relationship in which giving and receiving is experienced by both partners as satisfying and touching, as relatively balanced, and as supporting the unfoldment of the individual and the couple. Here are the competencies you will learn and practice in the Giving and Receiving program:
Expressing Gratitude And Appreciation:Learn to communicate what you receive in this relationship from your partner and understand the meaning and importance of gratitude in the healthy, evolving relationship.
Identifying The Unconscious Or Unspoken Agreements:
Learn to identify what you and your partner have unconsciously or implicitly agreed to give to this relationship. Work consciously with the often unspoken contracts you have formed with regard to roles and responsibilities.
Positive Negotiation Skills:
Learn methods of negotiation with your partner based on a desire for mutual satisfaction and a win/win spirit. Apply these skills to the small day to day relationship issues requiring negotiation as well as to the unconscious contracts formed in your relationship.
Positive Influence Skills:
Whether we realize it or not we are influencing each other consciously or unconsciously all the time. Learn to influence each other with integrity, honor, and directness. Understand which methods are likely to have a positive impact considering your partner's personality type.
Receiving From Your Partner:
Explore how to receive the love available in this relationship. For some people it is far more uncomfortable to receive than to give. Learn methods for letting in positive feelings from your partner.
Forgiveness:
Learn methods for forgiveness. Understand the role forgiveness plays in your life and relationship.
Developing A Vision:
Build a picture of what you most deeply wish to give to and receive from this relationship. Share your vision with your partner. Ground your vision in agreed-upon next steps and goals.
PLEASE NOTE: FEES / LOGISTICAL INFORMATION FOR THE PROGRAMS CAN BE FOUND ON THE "TO RESERVE A SPACE" PAGE.
Competent Couples 3 - Romance and the Physical Relationship
This week-end has as it's focus the development of skills for building or re-igniting, maintaining, and evolving the romantic and physical experience of your relationship. Plans are underway to offer the Romance and the Physical Relationship Workshop to the public in the Winter 2009 season.
Competent Couples 4 - The Spiritual Relationship
This week-end has as it's focus the development of communication and practices for sharing a life of spiritual exploration and growth. Plans are underway to offer The Spiritual Relationship Workshop to the public in the Winter 2009 season.
THE FIVE SESSION COURSE
Intimacy and Autonomy
The course involves 5 weekly meetings, three hours in length. It offers participants opportunities for practicing the competencies during and between classes. Participants return week to week with insights and questions gained from their weekly practices. The content of the five session course matches that of the foundational week-end workshop: Competent Couples 1 - Intimacy and Autonomy. The course format works well for couples who can free their schedules one evening per week (6:30-9:30 p.m.), while the week-end format works for couples who wish to learn these skills in one concentrated time period. Either the foundational week- end workshop Competent Couples 1 or the Five Session Course serves as the prerequisite for attending the other week-end programs. The five session course further provides a means of continuing practice for those who have taken the foundational week-end workshop and want an on-going structure for developing their skills. Couples who have completed the foundational week-end workshop are welcome to come back for the five session course at a reduced rate.
The Five Session Course - Intimacy and Autonomy
The course has as it's focus the development of skills for creating profound connection while honoring and working through your differences and conflicts in ways that bring healing and deeper trust to the relationship. Here are the competencies you will learn and practice in the Five Session Course - Intimacy and Autonomy :
Building the Ability To Be Present And Intimate With Your Partner:
Learn specific skills for being present and deeply connected to one another in ways that invite openness, trust, support, and growth as individuals and as a couple.
Listening And Staying Centered:
Create a relationship in which both of you are able to actively, compassionately, and effectively listen to one another. Learn to be present, empathic, and centered when your partner has gentle or strong feelings about an issue.
Working With Personality Differences:
Learn to understand, respect, and work effectively with differences between you and your partner.
Expressing And Resolving Conflicts In Ways That Provide Healing And Growth:
Learn how to express your conflicts and upsets with one another in ways less likely to create or recreate wounding in your partnership and more likely to build intimacy, trust, healing, and empowerment for both of you.
Understanding Your Patterns Of Behavior In Intimate Relationships:
Identify and understand the effects of your childhood on your adult relationship choices and behaviors. Identify the central wounds that play themselves out in most of your conflicts and learn ways of freeing yourself from outmoded strategies.
Collaborative Assertiveness:
Learn to assert what you want, need, or prefer in ways respectful to yourself and to your partner.
Developing A Vision of Partnership:
Build and maintain a partnership of intimacy, trust, collaboration, and growth in your relationship. Ground your vision in agreed upon next steps and goals.
PLEASE NOTE: FEES / LOGISTICAL INFORMATION FOR THE PROGRAMS CAN BE FOUND ON THE "TO RESERVE A SPACE" PAGE.